What a concept, eh?
How lovely it would be if we felt comfortable sharing all of ourselves with the world. The good, the good, and the good – because I don’t believe any of it is bad or ugly.
There is often an overarching emphasis in our society on the idea of healing as sticking staunchly to positivity and avoiding any less … attractive emotions. And I call bullshit. Emotions are there for a reason. No one floats through this world feeling nothing but happiness, joy and peace. Especially not in the process of healing.
I don’t believe that even the most enlightened among us never feel frustration, sadness, loneliness, or everything else on the gamut. The difference is in how they handle and process this discomfort.
Healing isn’t about pretending that nothing is wrong and forcing yourself into a positive mindset while shoving the truth of your process down and stifling it under a smile. Quite the opposite. Healing is about peering into the wounds and learning their true nature in order to find a way to mend them properly so that they leave as little scarring as possible.
Invisible wounds are the same as those that physically show on the body. If you do not clean a cut, but instead cover it so that no one can see, what happens? It gets infected. It oozes. Eventually a small scratch becomes a life-threatening problem.
And so it goes with emotional and mental wounds … we suppress them out of denial, fear of judgment, lack of self-awareness … there are endless reasons. The world does not treat mental health fairly, and so we deny our own mental health issues. They are in fact no different than physical issues, but because they are perceived as making us less than, we hide them out of shame.
Unfortunately, this is unlikely to change unless we do something about it. Perhaps if we begin, one by one, refusing to hide our truths in the shadows, we can make a difference. So many societal issues would be lessened or even solved if everyone was simply freed to feel comfortable expressing true emotion in a healthy, constructive and accepted manner. Then we would not feel obligated or pressured to carry it all inside until it becomes such a heavy burden that we explode, collapse, or crumple inwards.
Let’s begin today. It’s okay not to feel okay. That’s the damn truth. The sooner we find the freedom to release emotion, the sooner we can process it and let it go. That’s what leads to the ability to deal with our problems constructively.
Find the courage today to begin standing, little by little, in the truth of your own emotions. You got this. I got you.