As hard as it is to practice self-love, radical accountability is also right up there at the top of the list for me. Is it for you as well?

I challenge you to consider whether you live in victimhood. You may not see it that way. I certainly did not. If you’d asked me a year ago if I am someone who acts like a victim, I would’ve vehemently denied it – not because I was ashamed, but because I truly did not see it.

There are many of us in this world, I believe, unconsciously living with a victim’s mindset. By this I mean that instead of believing we are in control of our choices, circumstances, and decisions, we believe that most things are happening TO us and therefore we have no control at all. This is untrue. This is a story that we have been taught and then subsequently lived in for so long that it’s become our reality. But the thing is, we also get to choose our reality. We get to shift if we so desire.

So what if we decide to do that? What if we stop portraying ourselves as victims in our minds and instead refuse to be victimized in any situation, simply by taking our own power back again and again, staying aware and mindful during the process? What if we take radical accountability – meaning that with each and every decision, no matter how small, we accept that we are making these choices and we are in control?

This, my loves, is how we begin to un-trap ourselves. I know because I’m doing it, and because I’ve never felt so good in my life. Not because everything is perfect and I know where I’m headed, but because I feel like I’m purposefully navigating the waters of my own existence – for the first time ever. It’s a powerful, beautiful position to be in. I thought that taking accountability for myself would be scary and overwhelming. Instead I’m discovering that it empowers me to pivot and change the trajectory of my future when I don’t like where it’s going.

The best thing about this shift? You can enact it today. Right now, in this very moment. We are making decisions constantly, whether we realize it or not. Start noticing. Start becoming aware, and then begin making those choices consciously instead of letting the energy of your environment pull you whatever way it chooses. You are the leader at the helm of your own future. What you do in this moment determines what happens next. How awesome is that? You have all the power, all the control. Rather than running away from it, step into it and own it fully. I promise it’ll transform everything.

Taking radical responsibility for your life is a process and a practice. With time and determination, you can make meaningful shifts and start to own your power. Think about how good it will feel to decide where your future takes you, and keep on pushing forward. You can do this. Sending you so much love.