I forgot to write this blog yesterday.
No excuses, simply forgot. I had it on my to-do list. I had a lot of things on my to-do list … and then I decided that I needed a day to take care of myself. I’m working so much right now, and trying to focus on my side hustles as well (like this blog), and sometimes I need to step away.
I’m not good at stepping away, but I’m trying to improve. And part of that process means not getting upset with myself when I don’t remember to do everything, such as make sure I get this blog posted at exactly the right time on exactly the right day.
I know that to thrive online, you need to foster continuity and create a schedule. But I’m a human being, and I don’t want to live my life as a slave to an algorithm … an algorithm that changes on a whim when its creators decide to fuck with it. I needed my day of self-care yesterday. My body and soul were crying out for some compassion, and for once, I listened. So I’m not going to fall prey to these constructed requirements of society and feel guilty.
I’m happy that I listened to my body and not the voices in my head. I feel much better now than I would have if I’d skipped the self-care and made sure I got everything “done”. To be honest, none of it would’ve made much difference. I don’t get paid to do this, or anything else that I work on in my spare time. I don’t have a ton of subscribers who will get upset if I’m not consistent. I do my best, and some days that means I don’t post on time. And that’s okay – and it would still be okay in any situation. Because I’m human.
You are human too, and you deserve the space to be imperfect. You can’t do everything right all the time no matter what, so why kill yourself trying? It’s not worth it. I know that sometimes you have people relying on you. You have responsibilities. You have priorities. But, at the same time, I’d argue that if you don’t give yourself a break here and there, then it’ll be all the worse when you do finally burn out.
Do you get angry with those around you if they slip up and make little mistakes? I hope not. Try to treat yourself with the same compassion and kindness you would someone else. You deserve that from yourself. You are allowed to have days where nothing goes quite right. You are also allowed to put life on pause for a bit to take care of yourself.
Give yourself the freedom to make mistakes. You may be surprised at how much you learn and grow from the process. You are a beautiful, gloriously imperfect human. And you’re so lovable, just as you are.